Saturday, October 25, 2014

Glad to be home!

Well, I finally left UNC hospitals on Wednesday, October 22 which was two days prior to my previous expectation. The reason for this was described as my Myasthenia numbers had gotten to the point that other plasma exchanges were not  necessary. This determination was, in my opinion, related to the fact  that I almost became unconscious near the end of my fourth exchange. The team of physicians decided that that was caused by my irregular heart beat. In view of this revelation, they decided I should come home with a heart monitor that I am to mail in to them after 14 days.

Meanwhile, I am here with my wonderful wife who, with all her arthritic pains makes every effort to assure my well being. I am so blessed to have such a caring person in my life and she has been that way for the 65 plus years of our marriage. How I was fortunate enough to marry this wonderful person was without a doubt, a gift from God.

Although I have felt absolutely terrible the past couple of days, I feel slightly better right now which is a good thing and hope the improvement continues. Unless there is a major improvement by Monday, I plan on trying to see Dr. O'Neill. I feel sure he will give the correct advice as to the next step I should take. He will probably check to confirm my heart out of rhythm and if he finds it so will make a determination on the next step.

I was fortunate yesterday that I was able to accompany Barbara to her beauty shop appointment  and had  my hair cut and washed. It feel great and I was on the verge of applying for dog tags due to the shagginess it portrayed.

I really enjoyed my stay at UNC hospitals. Not that I like being hospitalized but  because of the wonderful people employed there. They are so caring and at least in my case, make one enjoy being there in spite of the pains and illnesses one might have.

As I told the beauticians at the beauty shop yesterday, when asked how I felt, my answer was, "terrible, but as the hymn goes, we will understand it better by and by".

I am now just praying that I can get back in my Bible Class and to Church. It is lonely in the world  without their backup.

Friday, October 17, 2014

At UNC Hospital

Here I am again! Well, I was scheduled to check in here at UNC hospitals on the 24th of October when suddenly, on Friday the 10th, I became so weak that I contacted Dr. Howard, my Myasthenia Gravis physician and was advised to come to the ER here. On Monday, the 13th they put a catheter in my veins in order to begin plasma exchange on Tuesday. I am scheduled for six of those and they all should be completed by Friday, the 24th and I should be discharged that day. Can't wait for that since I miss my wife and home so much.

I am truly fortunate to be cared for in UNC hospitals. They have, without question the most professional care givers I have ever experienced. The training of everyone in this facility seems to produce people that truly care for the patients well being since they strive to accommodate every whim one might have.

I have an excellent relationship with just about all of them since, having been a patient here many times over the past 10 years I have come to know the majority of those that serve here on the sixth floor which is reserved for Myasthenia patients only.

In addition to the excellent care provided, the meals are  similar to what one would expect in a "high end" type restaurant. They have a wide variety of any type food one could possibly want. The best part is the fact that you can order anything on the menu at anytime day or night and it will be delivered to your room within the hour.

I was visited today by my lovely wife, Barbara who was driven here by my wonderful daughter, Beverly. We were all joined prior to lunch by by talented son Blain. It was a real great feeling to have us all together for a while. Blain, however, has visited several times this week and Lori, Blain's wife took my dirty laundry home, washed it and returned it.

I am so thankful that Lori, Blain and Beverly took the time to accompany me on walks around the sixth floor. Although I really have not felt that great, I realize I have to get some exercise if I am to regain my normal strength. 

I really miss home and Church, especially my Bible Class and am anxious to get back to a daily routine in Danville.

I feel a little distraught today since Herman Parker, a member of my Bible Class was buried. His funeral was at the Church [North Main Baptist] at 2:00 and I would love to have attended.


Just thought I would record this here while it was fresh on my mind.








Saturday, September 11, 2010

Family Get Together 9/11/2010

Today was a great day in the Dillard household. We had some of our favorite family members for lunch and a good time was had by all. Those in attendance included Winnie, Sandra, Angela, Jean and Beverly and of course Barbara and me.

Barbara and I will be further blessed tomorrow when Blain and at least one of our adorable grandchildren visit. We always look forward with a great deal of joy when any of our family visits. It seems that feeling is more important as we continue to age gracefully.

We also give tribute this weekend to the victims of the murderous attacks by a few nuts on September 11, 2001. As a country, I hope we will never forget that act of mayhem. I know as Christians, we are supposed to be forgiving in all things, however, it is very difficult to forgive something so hideous. Oh well, the evil doers will most certainly get their just rewards when they arrive in hell.

Well, Blain and Caleb came as expected on Sunday 9/12. Babara and I met them at CCs Pizza for lunch. After lunch we came home where MeeMaw helped Caleb with gluing some toys and as expected got glue on the kitchen table as well as MeeMaw's ring. It wound up at the jewelers for a thorough cleaning.

We really enjoyed having them and truly love all our grandchildren.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Happy Anniversary Mom & Dad!!!

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Sunday, June 6, 2010

Edith's 85th Birthday Celebration

Last week, May 26, Blain drove Barbara and me down to Chesapeake, Va. to celebrate Edith's [my sister] 85th birthday. She is in an assisted living complex called Georgian Manor. It is a very beautiful facility with highly competent employees that go out of their way to assure her comfort and happiness.

Edith's daughter Ronda is a real jewel and really put on a party that would make anyone proud. I am so proud to have her for a niece and love her very much. The celebration was capped off with dinner at the Olive Garden Restaurant, compliments of Ronda. There was 12 in attendance and everyone seemed to really enjoy themselves, especially Edith. Edith's grandson Zack was there with his girl friend and that alone brought a lot of smiles to Edith's face. She really loves Zack and it is obvious that he feels the same towards her.

While there Barbara and I joined Edith along with the other Georgian Manor guests in a session on of bingo games. They play there every day and Edith has become addicted to this past time event.

Barbara and I spent the night at the Hampton Inn while Blain stayed with Ronda and John, Ronda's husband.

The following morning, Blain picked us up and we went by to say farewell to Edith and Ronda. Edith seemed really happy and we were pleased to see they were in an exercise period being conducted by some of the staff as well as Ronda.

Ronda's school where she is employed is less that 1/2 mile from Edith' resident which gives her the flexibility to visit very often, usually twice daily. What a daughter. She cares for Edith with so much love and compassion. I feel very fortunate in the fact that Barbara and I have a daughter, Beverly, that is very similar to Ronda in the way she cares for us and attempts to look after every little need that we may have.

We are so appreciative of Blain driving us down there and he really seemed to enjoy it, unlike most men I have known.

This was the first time in years that Barbara and I had been on a trip and we
thoroughly enjoyed it.

I feel sure this "Birthday Event" will be forever in Edith's memory.

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Caleb's Weekend Visit

Barbara and I were so fortunate to have our son, Blain and three wonderful grandchildren visit and spend the night with us on Friday, April 2nd. We were overjoyed that Caleb opted to stay over two additional nights.

He is such a joy to be with. On Saturday afternoon Caleb and I went to see the movie, "Train Your Dragon" which was shown in 3-D and was very enjoyable.

On Sunday, he accompanied Barbara and I to Church. He was a perfect little gentleman. We took him to the 3rd grade Sunday School class and I picked him up when it was over. Since I was scheduled to usher, I had him sit at our usual section where he was joined by Barbara. After ushering, I joined them and he was a very well behaved boy the entire service. At one point during the singing, he whispered to Barbara that "they sing that song at my Church".

After Church, we had all sorts of plans, however, the fact that Target's was closed for Easter sort of through us off. We decided to formulate an alternate plan which included visiting Winnie's house where all her family was gathering for an Easter Meal. Although we had planned on eating at the Golden Corral, everyone there insisted that we eat with them. We did and it was a superb meal.

After eating, we took Caleb to Walmart's where Barbara purchased a pair of shoes for him as well as a Lego toy that he had longed for a long time. We then came home where he proceeded to put that thing together. He is simply amazing in working with those things. It would probably take me a week to put it together while he did it in a little over an hour.

It was amazing to me that Caleb would insist on taking a bath each night before going to bed. Most kids would not do that.

I have a major regret though. We were so excited to have Caleb, I failed to take even one picture. As many pictures that exist in our family, the omission of pictures for this visit is inexcusable and I will forever regret it.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

Christmas 2009

Well, another Christmas season is now behind us. Although this one went as usual, in that everyone received too many gifts. There was sadness about. My childhood friend, Larry Watlington passed away in Florida. He had been ill for some time so his passing was not unexpected. It just seems sad that it happened during Christmas. Barbara and I attended the funeral and I was listed as a pall bearer, however, I was in so much pain, I could not participate.

On Christmas day, Barbara, Beverly and I joined Blain and family along with Lori's parents in Cary, N. C. This has been the routine for the past several years and as is customary, everyone had plenty of gifts food and family fellowship. Seth, Caleb and Luke seemed to really enjoy the gifts from Santa as well as the many others they received. It was unfortunate that it rained all day that day and made it a little difficult driving. Beverly is an excellent driver, however, so we had no problems arriving back in Danville around 6:00 P. M. Beverly departed for Richmond to visit her friend on Saturday, the 26th.

On Saturday night it seemed as if everything that could go wrong did. I became very ill with a virus of some kind and was unable to get out of bed all day on Sunday. On Monday, I seemed to be getting a little better but Barbara came down with the same type of virus. She was sick all day Monday and Tuesday and is still not over it. I am somewhat better but have remained very weak since it started.
I have sent word to my Myasthenia Gravis Doctor in Chapel Hill hoping he can see me prior to my scheduled appointment on January 8. I suspect my weakness now may be related the the Myasthenia.

Christmas is such a special time of year. It would be wonderful if more time, money and effort could be funneled into the real spirit of Christmas and the birth of Jesus Christ.

To anyone reading this blog, I wish the very best New Year.

Henry

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Fall Visit To Beverly's, 10/17/2009

Yesterday, October 19, 2009, Barbara and I took a rare trip to see our wonderful daughter, Beverly. It is so beautiful in the mountains this time of year. We would probably have enjoyed it more, had we waited another week or two when the leaves would have been completely turned to beautiful colors.

During this phase of our lives, however, we have to jump up and go when we are able. With Barbara's arthritis pains and my breathing problems, the occasions are rare. We really enjoyed the visit and are very fortunate to have such a "caring" daughter.

She has 3 dogs on the premises that she cares for although they do not belong to her. they are very lovable and she enjoys them very much, not to mention their value in scaring off any intruders that might trespass on the property.

She served us a delicious lunch that included apple pie and ice cream and boy, was it ever good. I must have gained at least a couple of pounds on the dessert alone.

I suppose our next visit will be to visit Blain and Lori along with out beautiful grandchildren. I hope and pray, we will be able to do that trip soon.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

82nd Birthday 7/14/2009

I never dreamed I would make it this far but with the grace of God and TLC by my wonderful wife, I had the privilege of celebrating 82 years of living on July 14.

Beverly came, spent the night and then treated Barbara and I to dinner at Lone Star Steakhouse. She also was generous to a fault by presenting me with a new set of scales.[Wonder if she is trying to tell me something?] In addition, she brought a beautiful delicious red velvet cake with 3 pictures of me baked on the top. One was when I was about 10 years old and sitting on a pony with a cowboy hat and chaps. Another was a Navy picture of me and the last was a current photo. Boy, how looks change over the years?

It was unfortunate that Blain could not be here, however, he was in New York on business, two of his children were in camp and Lori, his wife was in Richmond caring for her Mother who had undergone surgery. They have really been busy!

I am so thankful for my wonderful wife, my two children and 3 grandchildren. I am also thankful for my daughter-in-law, Lori and her presenting me with those beautiful boys.

God is Truly good!!!!!

Monday, June 22, 2009

Father's Day, 2009

What a wonderful day we had with Blain and his family. the boys were great and seemed to have a good time. Of course there is a very limited number of things for them to do here since we have gotten rid of the toys that they had out grown. they are now into video games and computers.

It gives one a great sense of pride when an 8 year old can approach and describe some game and/or toy that he just discovered on the internet. He is ready with the cost and where it can be purchased and is ready to go. Of course, it is impractical to get them everything they desire. Even Obama couldn't provide enough bail out money for that. Besides, they already have at least one of everything.

They sure are a joy to be around and make both Barbara and I very happy. We are so proud of Blain and Lori for the time they spend with them. While Blain was growing up, I was usually travelling or busy trying to make a living. He did turn out great though as did Beverly.

Beverly was absent on Father's Day this year due to a prior committment invlolving a vacation to the Grand Turk Islands. We are so happy she is able to travel and enjoy life to the fullest. She E-Mails daily to keep us up on her activities.

It is truly great being a "Father", especially when there are such fine children and grandchildren to be proud of.

Friday, June 12, 2009

Luke's Last Soccer Game Of The Season

This is a little late being posted but I did not want to wait longer to express the joy Barbara and I experienced Saturday, June 6. We attended our youngest grandson's [Luke] last soccer game of the season. His team won by a score of 5 to 4. Imagine our joy and pride when Luke was credited with 4 out of the 5 goals his team achieved. I feel we have a future soccer star here. I have never seen anyone so dedicated to any game as Luke is to soccer.

His older brother Seth [age 10] is just as interested in basketball and seems to have the same determination as Luke. I must say, however, that Luke, at the age of 6 is one of the most determined young athletes I have ever seen.

These two young boys contrast with their middle brother Caleb, [age 8] who is more interested in assembling toys and games. It would appear to me that he is destined to be a very successful engineer. In any event, Barbara and I love them dearly as well as their parents, Blain and Lori. Of course, we also love dearly our daughter Beverly.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Our 60th Anniversary



On June 9, Barbara and I celebrated our 60th Anniversary. It was done with little fanfare but lots of joy. Beverly and Blain had put our picture along with the announcement in the Danville Register and Bee on Sunday, June 7. This was a total surprise to us and we were taken aback while scanning the paper and happened to see it.

This announcement resulted in many cards of congratulations which, of course, was sincerely appreciated by both Barbara and me. Several of our very good friends visited with gifts including candy, fruits and most appreciated by us, good wishes.

The next day we cut the cake Beverly had brought. It was a large Red Velvet cake with our picture imposed on it. I have no idea how they do that but it was truly something to behold.

To further our celebration, Beverly took us to the Outback Steak House for dinner where they were gracious in presenting us with a dessert that was out of this world called "Thunder from Down Under". We probably added a few pounds by consuming that.

I find it simply amazing that a wonderful person such as Barbara would spend 60 years with me. I am so thankful that God sent her my way since I have no idea what I would do or where I would be without her. She has been a wonderful wife and Mother all these years and for that, I am forever grateful.

We took several pictures during this time and I will be posting them later. They include a picture of the Red Velvet Cake.

Henry

Friday, January 2, 2009

Christmas 2008

What a wonderful Christmas this has been. At my age [81], I could not have enjoyed it more. Received more gifts than I was worthy of but just enjoyed them any way. Beverly bestowed a new Sony Camera on me Christmas Eve which was used to make some excellent pictures for the rest of the Holiday. In addition, she gave me a lot of things I do not need such as pounds and pounds of chocolate candies. [Love them but do not need them] She was also over generous to Barbara who is much more deserving than I.

Blain continues his efforts in trying to train me to be computer literate which is probably a lost cause but I just keep on trying. He purchased a DVD/CD recorder for my Desk Top computer along with a camera for it so that we can see and talk to each other at the same time.

He also spent about two hours correcting my "stock activities" over the past year and bringing my "Quicken Program" into balance. He usually has to do this a couple of times each year and I am truly grateful for him doing so.

Barbara and I are so thankful for our children and grand children. They mean all the world to us.

We are also thankful for the "Spirit of Christmas" and that Jesus died on the cross for all of us.

This is to wish anyone that happens to view this blog, "A VERY MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!"

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

100th Birthday Celebration

This past Sunday, October 12, Barbara and I attended the 100th birthday celebration of Grace Neely. It was a wonderful tribute to a remarkable lady.

Grace was the wife of Russell Neely, a truly great friend of mine from my old Coca Cola days. Russell was hired around 1949 as Treasurer. We developed a close working relationship and I will always cherish my friendship with him. He came to Coca Cola from Stratford College where as best I recall he was in charge of book keeping. Mr Ray hired him to take over the accounting functions of Coca Cola and he did a tremendous job in that capacity.

I did not know Grace very well during those years but did know her and will always remember what a gracious lady she was.

In their retirement years, they opted to enter an assisted living complex called Westminster Canterbury which is located in Lynchburg, Virginia. It is one of the most luxurious facilities of its kind I have ever seen. Barbara and I visited Russell and Grace many times prior to my contracting Myasthenia Gravis. We always found them in an excellent mood and they never failed to show their appreciation for our visits.

Russell passed away in the late 90s and Jack Setliff and I attended his funeral which was held in his home town of Pamplin, Virginia.

Grace was getting very hard of hearing and was going blind which really put a stress on her since she was so accustomed to Russell reading to her. As a matter of fact, Russell had expressed concern about her not having someone to read to her in the event he passed away before she did.

Thankfully, there was a lady that took up that function by visiting Grace each Friday and reading a book of her choice. I seem to recall this lady saying she was from a local Church and was thrilled to be a part of Grace's life.

The function was well attended [approximately 55 attendees] by people from as far away as Utah which was a real tribute to her.

Barbara and I learned to love Grace and were so fortunate to be invited to her 100th birthday event.

Saturday, December 31, 2005

Schoolfield... and Beyond


A BOOK OUTLINING MY LIFE EXPERIENCES


TABLE OF CONTENTS
  1. TABLE OF CONTENTS

2. PREFACE

In October, 2004 while a patient in Danville Regional Medical Center, a friend of mine, Linda Walker, suggested that I record my life’s experiences for my grandchildren and their children. This is a feeble attempt to do that and I trust they and others will enjoy this effort. Any salacious details that come to mind will not be recorded in this book.

Pictured herewith are my three wonderful grandchildren to whom this book is dedicated. They are: Seth Langston Dillard at age 6, Caleb Denver Dillard at age 4 and Luke Scott Dillard at age 2.

In addition to the grandchildren, I also want to dedicate this writing to my wonderful children, Beverly Leigh Dillard, Blain Alan Dillard, his wife, Lori and my devoted wife of 56 years, Barbara Wilkinson Dillard. They have all been a great inspiration to me over the years for which I am most appreciative.

Friday, December 30, 2005

3. INTRODUCTION

Since nothing written about Schoolfield or my early life would be complete without a full description of Schoolfield and how it came to be. I will attempt to describe that portion of my life here and now.

Schoolfield is a cotton mill town that was built to house the thousands of employees that would be necessary to run the thousands of looms, carding machines and others needed to make cotton cloth. These houses were built in the late 1890s and/or the early 1900s. I am not sure exactly when but know it was a well built community and the structures would last several lifetimes.

It is said that Dan River’s first choice was Milton N. C. for the mill and housing construction. It was voted down, however, by the Milton town council due to the noise factor that would emanate from the thousands of machines necessary to the manufacturing process. At that time, Milton had approximately 500 residents. Today, they probably have less than a thousand. Just think, without that town council vote, Danville could very well be the size of Milton and Milton the size of Danville. I was informed recently by a Milton resident that the town council has not changed; they still will not permit any industry that makes noise.

The mill houses were built to provide low cost living quarters for the many farmers and mountain people the company needed to attract and lure to the city if they were to be successful in running a profitable enterprise for their many stock holders. This was an excellent plan and that is the reason my parents and many others came to live in Schoolfield.

The houses were segregated according to ones qualifications and the responsibilities one would assume. Example: If you had no experience and would come in as a trainee, you would be housed most likely on Pelham, Lee. Jackson, Stuart or Harrison Streets. These consisted of two to six-room houses and dependant on the size of a particular family would determine which house on which street a family would be quartered. On the other hand, should someone qualify for supervisory status, then that family would be housed, probably on Bishop or Park Avenue. Then there was the “Upper Crust”, they would be housed in much more luxurious quarters, more than likely not in the Mill Village.

I feel that is an adequate description of the housing accommodations and will go into more detail regarding other aspects further in this writing.

I am including here several photos of Dan River Mills as well as other properties owned by them and built for the exclusive use of their employees. Our entire family as well as all our friends took full advantage of these entities.

Dan River Mills Number One Gate. This entrance to the Dan River Schoolfield Division was the most used. It was one of six entrances to
this Division.


 








Main plant of Riverside division located on the Dan River in downtown Danville.











Pictured here is one of the groups of stores provided. This section includes Schoolfield Lunch, the Dan River outlet store and others. It once included a drug store, hardware store, barbershop, shoe shop and grocery store as well as others.






Pictured here is what was once the Y. M. C. A. and Schoolfield Theatre. My entire family used these on a regular basis.








Pictured here is what was known as Hylton Hall. It was initially used as a housing facility for Dan River employees but was turned into offices sometime in the late 1940s or early 1950s.

Thursday, December 29, 2005

4. MY BIRTH PLACE

My Birth Home
I was born in the two-room house pictured above on July 14, 1927. As you might imagine, several changes have been made over the years, however the basic structure is the same although additional space has been added.

Already living there was my Mom, my Dad, my sister Edith who was two at the time and my brother Robert who was four. One might ask how five people could sleep in a two-room house and my answer would have to be, I have no idea and cannot remember back that far. I sense, however that my parents had very few skills and no influence whatsoever for such a large family to wind up in a two room house. I just barely remember living there since we moved when I was about five or six. I do know we had a happy family with few luxuries. No, make that no luxuries. The amazing thing is that we actually had overnight guests in that two-room house. I do not recall how or where they slept but I do recall having them.

During these times, Doctors made house calls, so I was delivered by Doctor Henry Jerome Langston and as a matter of fact was named after him. He was our family Doctor until the day he died. I remember my Mother would pay him $1.00 each week and did so as long as I could remember. I have heard that when he died, all of Mom’s debt was cancelled. What a tribute to a great person. Try finding one of those Doctors today. It is impossible to do so.

The first thing I recall about my birth house was one night the police came and arrested one of my Dad’s sons by a previous marriage, I cannot recall the name of the son or the reason for the arrest but recall he was hiding in a very small closet when they found him. I could not have been more than 3 or 4 years of age at the time.

Henry at age 3


To clarify the jumbled mess surrounding my family tree, I will state right here some things I never understood and probably never will. I never in my lifetime heard of my Dad’s parents, nor do I ever recall seeing or meeting them. I only know that he had five sons and two daughters, Geneva and May. The sons who would be my half brothers, I knew quite well over the years, although we rarely associated with one another. The son’s names are Presley, Carl, Doc, Howard, and Elbert. I can barely recall Geneva and May, although I do have some slight memory of them. To the best of my knowledge, none of them are alive as of this writing. On my Moms side, she had a son, Robert C. Dixon by a previous marriage. Edith and I always considered him our true whole brother since we were raised together. Robert passed away with a heart attack in the early 1980s.

My birth home, as I stated, was a two-room house. It contained no running water inside nor did it have indoor toilet facilities. Instead, as all the mill houses, it had a toilet, (then known and described as an "Out House"). It was situated 50 feet from the house on the outside. The best thing about all these luxuries was the cost. Dan River Mills charged 25 cents per week per room for their rental houses. [What a deal!] This included electricity, water, painting and repairs as needed, toilet paper that was delivered and thrown into the Out House every two weeks, and of course, cleaning out the toilets approximately every two years. It was easy to predict when the Honey Wagon, as we called it, would arrive since the odor would arrive several weeks prior to the actual clean out. A black man with a bad eye always drove the Honey Wagon. Consequently, we called him “Bad Eye” and he was known by that name throughout Schoolfield. A horse pulled the Honey Wagon. I always pitied that poor horse for having to endure that awful odor every single day. I feel certain it was just as bad for “Bad Eye.”

There were many other advantages to living in a Schoolfield house. The Company provided police and fire protection for free. In addition, they had a coal yard, a department store, a drug store, a movie theatre, and a Y. M. C. A. All these were available at little or no charge, and if a charge was made, it was deducted from one’s paycheck.

During this period of time, most local grocery stores had salesmen and they provided free delivery. It is amazing to think back when our sales representative, Mr. Shumate, would arrive early in the morning and review our grocery needs with Mom. He would mention anything that she might be prone to forget. The order would be delivered the next morning. My only question is how could all this be done on the small amount of money Mom made? I guess that will always be the question, albeit hard to understand.

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

5. OUR FIRST MOVE


62 Stuart Ave (now known as Carlson St.)


Sometime around 1932, we had an opportunity to move to another house on what was then Stuart Avenue and was numbered 62. [Pictured above] Since it was twice as large, obviously the rent doubled from 50 Cents per week to $1.00 per week. This seemed to give us so much extra space that Mom started taking in boarders. Most of the boarders were people with whom she was familiar, and many were from her mountain home place in Mouth of Wilson, North Carolina, and Fox, Virginia. This was necessary due to the low wages Mom made, which I recall to be around $8.00 per week.

During this period of time, on Saturdays, I would often sell apples for either Roy Johnson or Charlie Harris. These were two fellows that would go to the mountains each fall and get a load of apples. They would return to Danville and enlist me and others to sell to the ladies-of-the-houses. We carried a ‘peck bucket’ of apples and went door-to-door. The pay for carrying those buckets all day was normally 10 cents or 15 cents depending on how successful we happened to be on that particular day. We would usually stop at some store and get a bologna sandwich and an R. C. Cola for lunch, which was paid for by either Charlie or Roy, depending on who we were working for that day. Each day prior to starting, I would inquire as to the type of apples we were selling that day. On one occasion, I mis-understood the type. When I was told we would be selling Stayman Winesap apples, I understood it to be the same as Winesap. When this one lady ask me the type, I told her I didn't know for sure but they were the same as Winesap. That went over big!

I will always remember Stuart Avenue with fondness. It is difficult to imagine the cinder streets that consisted of coal cinders from Dan River Mills furnaces. I can recall watching them being spread from a Dan River Mills dump truck while some of them were still red with fire. They did, however make good streets for automobiles to roll on, but were not good for bicycles or skates.

There were also excellent sidewalks on each side of the street that were great for skating, a skill I became quite good at. It was once said that I could skate uphill faster than most boys could skate down. I can recall one downhill skate that turned into a disaster. I was skating down one night after dark and skated into an electric pole. I hit it so hard; it was heard from inside our house. Fortunately for me, I was not seriously injured.

Stuart Avenue was a great street. No one locked his or her doors; if you went to visit, you simply walked in. Everyone was friendly and everyone on Stuart knew every one else on that street. Contrast that with today’s environment and you can imagine the vast difference. In today’s world, everyone locks every door and hardly knows their next-door neighbor. What a change for the worse!!

Sometime in the mid 1930s, after we had moved, Mom was really overworked. It was difficult for her to raise three children, work in the Mill and prepare food for the boarders. I once heard her say that she had to have some help, so I set out to find her some. On the way to school one day, I came upon a black woman named Mary Morton who happened to be seeking a job. Times were hard and a lot of people were looking for work doing just about anything that needed doing. I asked her if she needed a job and her response was, “yes.” I gave her our address and she went for an interview with Mom. When I arrived home that day, Mary had a big tub of water boiling in the back yard and was washing clothes. She stayed with us for many years and practically became a member of the family. She was a great cook and as I recall was paid around $2.00 per week plus room and board. I don’t really recall where she slept but do recall she was a great person and a hard worker. I lost touch with her over the years but will never forget her. My sister, Edith, was much closer to Mary than was I and stayed in touch with her much longer. Suffice it to say, we both miss her and will never forget her honesty and integrity, character traits that are absent in similar individuals today.

Polly Dowell, Mary Morton and Lucille Cox. Polly and Lucille were two of Mom’s boarders and were distant relatives. They came from the mountains around Fox, Virginia.


Aaron Phipps was my uncle and is now deceased. When he died in he was a Minister of the Gospel. My memories of him include how frightened I was of him as a child. I recall having what my Mom would call a “Dillard Fit.” During a “Dillard Fit,” I would be on the floor kicking and screaming and crying for something I really did not need. Aaron had such a deep rough, sort of scary voice, that if he appeared on the scene during one of these episodes, he would say as forceful as one could imagine, “Boy, get up from there and shut up!” That voice, in that tone, frightened me to death. I would immediately cease crying and kicking and screaming.

Aaron was a big gambler and drinker in those days and usually worked in a grocery store. Later in life, however, he was saved and turned to the ministry and was a wonderful Christian. I have always heard, “the worse the sinner, the better Christian one becomes.” This was certainly accurate in Aaron’s case. During the last years of his life, each time I would see him, he would say, “Isn’t it wonderful to be a Christian?”

Around 1936 or 1937, there was a boy named Jay Moose that lived across the street and two doors down from our house. He always wanted to fight me, but for what reason, I don’t know. I tried to avoid him, in part because I was afraid and in part because I just didn’t like the idea of fighting. It happened that Larry Watlington, who lived next door to me at the time, became an intermediary for Jay and me. Jay visited Larry early one morning and told him he was going to beat the devil out of me and asked Larry to deliver the message to me. Larry woke me up with that message and it made me so angry that I went out and beat the devil out of Jay. The moral to that story is, never wake a sleeping person and garner for a fight.

We fought a lot in those days, though I don’t know why. I suppose it had something to do with the fact that we had little else to do. On the way home from school, I would usually get in a fight just about every day. Should I be fortunate enough to be winning the fight; that would be the day Mom would come by on her way from work, grab me by the ear, and drag me home with catcalls from my opponent calling me a coward for leaving. On the other hand, should I happen to be losing, I would keep looking for Mom to show up and save me and that would be the day she decided to go to town shopping. It was difficult to win with that type of luck.

I did learn one valuable lesson about fighting. There was a boy named Ray Chandler that I would bully on a regular basis. I threatened to beat him up so he would be afraid of me. I chased him every time I got the chance, really for no reason since he was a very nice person. One day I chased him and made the mistake of actually catching him. He proceeded to beat the stuffing out of me by bloodying my nose as well as other places. My Mom went to see his Mom and blessed her out about it. I learned from that event, if you are ever chasing someone you really don’t want to fight, make sure he stays in front of you and never corner him.

In order to feed the boarders and our family, Mom would make about two-dozen fried apple pies during the weekend and would keep them in the icebox for consumption the following week. Once, I was playing with my friend Elwood Dorsett underneath the house. I smelled those pies and proceeded to sneak up to the kitchen to try them out. I took one for me and one for Elwood and they were so delicious I decided it called for two more. After several trips, the pies were gone and as usual, I received a whipping. However, it was worth it, since those pies were so tasty and so great.

Looking back, it seems strange to consider how far we have come in technology. I just mentioned our icebox, which had to have ice. Of the two Ice Companies operating during that time frame, Tudor Ice who was the most popular and Danville Ice and Coal Company provided this service. We used Tudor and the amount of ice delivered was based on an ice card that hung on the front porch. It was “octagon shaped” and had the numbers 25, 50, 75 and 100 on it. If you needed 50 pounds of ice, you turned the card on the nail from which it was hanging so the 50 was at the top. On seeing this, the deliveryman would automatically grab a 50-pound block with his ice tongs and place it in your icebox. What a long way we have come since those days. I don’t recall the exact charges for ice, but I seem to recall that a 50 pound block would cost approximately 15 cents.

On Stuart Avenue, we boys spent most of our time shooting marbles. This was the main sport and was usually started by some boy who carried his marbles in a bag or his pocket. The proper way to get started was to say, “First shot on you.” If the boys were willing, then a circle was drawn in the dirt and one would put in the center the number of marbles they were willing to risk. The one that could shoot the most marbles out of the circle was declared the winner and got to keep the marbles he won. Some boys were so good they sometimes could amass as much as a gallon of marbles.

Playing “hop scotch” consumed most of the girl’s pastime. Of course everyone still knows about that game since it is still popular in most neighborhoods. Boys also enjoyed hopscotch, but it was considered a “sissy game,” so they tried to hide their love for it.

In the early or mid 1930s while at my grandmother’s house in the summer (which became an annual event once school was out), I realized that Claude Kennedy, her husband, was a very mean individual. I recall him kicking horses in the side for the slightest disobedience. He would also make me do the chores that would normally be done by his children, Delbert and Delano. Delano would do anything to get out of work. Once, when I complained to my grandmother that I was being forced to do all their work, she talked to Claude and the next time something needed to be done, he told Delbert to do it, and it was done without comment. However, the next time, when he told Delano, the youngest, to do something, Delano sheepishly said, “Have Henry do it.” What a pain he was. He grew up, and the last I heard was an over the road truck driver.

During the same period, grandma had a 1930 model Chevrolet that was a beauty. It was kept under a shed and had beautiful green corduroy seats. They only bought licenses for it semi-annually. I suppose that was because of the financial situation everyone was in those days. I recall in later years that the car became a mess since they allowed chickens to roost in it. Can you imagine all that chicken manure on those beautiful corduroy seats?

Years later, in the 1950s, I went to check on the car in the hopes of restoring it; however, I found the car to be so rusted and filthy, it was not worth restoration. It was amazing; the filth those people lived in. It was apparently by choice since my uncle, Clarence Kennedy, lived ¼ mile from them with a totally different life style. His house was always clean and one felt good about visiting and eating there. By contrast, at grandma’s, there was always food on the table accompanied by thousands of flies. All the while through meals, one would have to continue swatting them. It was terrible and I am surprised that we survived it

Sometime around the age of six or seven, I decided to start smoking. That was the worst mistake of my life and I feel I am paying for it now as I write this book. I would watch for other smokers to discard their cigarettes and would pick up their “duck,” as it was called, and finish smoking it. I recall one day, my dad had a visitor and they were sitting in the swing on our front porch. Dad’s visitor was smoking and Dad was chewing tobacco.

I was hiding underneath the porch waiting for his visitor to discard his cigarette butt. As I peeked up to see how much longer it might be, my Dad decided to spit out his tobacco and it landed right in my eye. That was probably the worst pain I ever experienced and I had a hard time explaining why I was under the porch and looking up. I obviously couldn't tell about my waiting for the cigarette since no one knew that I smoked. I finally explained it by saying, “I was just playing.” Fortunately for me, Edith was on hand to confirm that I was just playing.

My best friend during this time of my life was my next-door neighbor, Willard Stokes. He was an only child and seemed to have everything that we could not afford. He always had the very best “store bought clothes” while Mom made most of ours. Of course we were envious of him, but always remained best friends. Willard never smoked, but he enjoyed watching me puff away. Often times, he would buy cigarettes for me just so he could observe me smoking. Regretfully, Willard passed away in 2003 in Roman Eagle Nursing Home and for that, I am truly sorry. His wife, Ruby predeceased him by about two years.

Willard’s parents, Grady and Belle Stokes were the greatest. Since Mom worked all the time, they would make sure that Edith and I had the proper clothing on each day for school and they were very caring people.




Edith and me in the mid to late 30s



Edith and I were instructed by Mom to share the household chores. I would usually wind up doing very little by talking Edith into doing both our shares. For example, we were supposed to take turns washing the dishes after Mom left for work. I would convince Edith it was her turn when really it was mine. After arguing awhile, I would say; “Let's just start over; you do it this time and I’ll do it next.” That worked every time I tried it.

Around 1935, Dad had an accident while working in the Mill. A shuttle from a loom flew out and hit him in the stomach. He had some sort of disagreement with the Mill and was discharged. He then became a “stay at home Mom” and did the cleaning and cooking. He could make the best biscuits I ever remember eating. I will never forget the wonderful breakfasts he would prepare consisting of hot brown biscuits, lots of eggs over light and sausage with lots of milk gravy. He was such a great cook!

He was extremely jealous of Mom and they argued and fussed continuously. It was very frustrating for both Edith and I. It finally ended when I was eleven and Mom called Dad’s oldest son, Pressley, to come and get him. Dad wound up working at Clark’s Dairy in Ringgold and had a small one-room house for living quarters. Carl, another son of his also worked there and lived in a larger house with his family. Each summer for two or three years, I would catch the train to Ringgold for 10 cents and visit him for a few days. Dad passed away in the mid fifties at the age of 75. I regret the fact that I did not visit him as I should have, nor did I contact him, as a son should. I guess we just grew apart due to the circumstances surrounding his and Mom’s problems, which were very unfortunate.

Edith, Robert and I were very close throughout this period of time and on up through our early teens. We covered for each other and each had a loving respect for one another. My Dad really believed in corporal punishment, at least as far as I was concerned. I was the recipient of most of Dad’s wrath through daily whippings, many of which were very severe and harmful to me. He would never touch Robert since Robert was not his son.

At that time, he would never whip Edith because at an early age he had whipped her to the point he was fearful for her health and did not want to risk a calamity by doing her severe harm. That left only me to beat up on and he did that in good fashion. I must admit, most of it was justified, but not to the extent I was punished. One day I received 15 whippings. He would often chase me up and down Stuart Avenue and when I would tire him out from running, he would make Edith chase me. She would run after me while yelling, “Run faster Henry so I can’t catch you.”

One of my memories includes my friends and me going up to the railroad track and making faces at the hobos. This would cause them to throw clumps of coal at us, which we would gather up and take home for our laundry heater to keep us warm.

One day Elwood Dorsett, one of my very good friends and I were playing together and were in Edith’s room snooping as we liked to do. I looked in her little cedar chest and observed a dime in there. I picked it up and then put it back. We left to ride our homemade wagon down the street. We coasted all the way to the small bridge leading to Merchant’s Dairy in Newtown that is now known as Edgewood. As we crossed the bridge, with Elwood driving the wagon and me riding behind, I heard Edith yell from our back porch for me to bring her dime back.

When I responded that I did not get it, Elwood said, “Yes you did, Henry, here it is on the wagon where it fell from your pocket.” I knew then that he had taken the dime and was now afraid and was blaming it on me. Because of this, I received a tremendous whipping for something I did not do. My opinion of Elwood changed dramatically, although we still remained friends for many years. Elwood passed away at an early age for causes I do not know; I think he was around age 40.

Henry playing cowboy


Most everyone in these days listened to the Lone Ranger on the radio, since there was no such thing as television. The program was very exciting and kept everyone that listened in suspense. I was no exception and was a loyal fan of the Lone Ranger and Tonto, his friendly Indian companion, as well as his sturdy steed, Silver. Merita Bakeries sponsored the entire program. They did everything possible to make it a huge success.

One gimmick they used was a Lone Ranger club membership. To join, you were required to mail in a certain number of Merita bread wrappers and for this they would send you a membership kit that consisted of a secret code, a Lone Ranger mask and several other items to promote Merita bread and the Lone Ranger. It was a good program that gave kids something to do during a time and in an environment with really little to do. It would be nice if today’s children could have similar programs rather than all the many expensive toys they have access to in today’s world.

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

6. ON TO WEST END SCHOOL AND SCHOOLFIELD HIGH SCHOOL

I will never forget my first day at school. I was frightened and cried continuously. I was so fortunate to have such a beautiful and loving teacher by the name of Mildred Slayton. She sat me up in the window and let me look out until I got over my fears. I will never forget her for being so kind to me that one day. Over the years, we developed a true friendship as she was getting promoted through the school system and finally became the Principle of Schoolfield High School. She passed away in 2002 and sadly, never married. What a loss that was to some potentially lucky man.

While at West End, which was located where the Schoolfield Hardee's is now located, I always looked forward to recess. Several of my pals and I would sneak over into the woods and roll some cigarettes from a Golden Grange cigarette rolling machine. This was a machine that one could order through the mail, and as I recall, cost about 25 cents. We would, after using it, wrap it carefully and bury it in a secret place. To my knowledge, it is still buried there, but is now covered by a Kroger Super Market so it would be difficult to locate.
West End was a great elementary school and we all loved it very much. It had many great and wonderful teachers whom I will forever be grateful for all they did for me.

Edith, as a child was considered a very beautiful young lady. She was my favorite person in the whole wide world as we were growing up. One of her very best friends was Doris Adkins. Doris’s brother, Ray, was one of my very best friends. On one occasion, Edith, Doris and I had been to the Schoolfield Theatre and when leaving they noticed a lady and were trying to determine whether or not she was wearing a wig. Doris suggested that I run up to her and give her hair a tug to determine if their thoughts might be correct. I ran up to the woman and gave her hair a big tug and lo and behold, it was her original hair. Out of sheer fright, I started running and ran until I got home.

Ray Adkins and I lost touch during our late teens, but I found that his career led him to work for the North Carolina Highway Department as an engineer. He died in the 70s after being mugged, beaten and robbed while giving a seminar in Fayetteville. I did not know about it at the time, although I lived in Fayetteville. I did attend his funeral, which was at his hometown of Durham, N. C.

Doris passed away in the spring of 2005 in a nursing home in Martinsville, Virginia. She was pre-deceased by her husband, Charles [Bugs] Smith.

After seven years at West End, I entered Schoolfield High. At that time, rather than being grades nine through twelve, high school began at grade eight and ended with grade eleven.

After completion of grades through eight, I became embroiled in an argument with my “shop teacher,” Mr. Hill. He sent me to the principal for reprimand, and I was suspended for several days. I took this as an opportunity to convince my Mom that I would be of more use to the family if I dropped out and went to work as my brother Robert had done a couple of years previous. She, finally, reluctantly agreed, and I set out to make my fortune by getting a job in a local restaurant washing dishes. I washed an average of 50 tubs of dishes per day for $3.00 per week. That was my first bad business decision, but it really taught me the meaning of hard work. Although the pay was low, so were prices. Hot dogs sold for the low price of five cents each or six for 25 cents. Hamburgers sold for 10 cents each and in most places 3 for 25 cents.

It was difficult to find time to enjoy the few things we had while having to wash all those dishes. I did begin to give Mom some money to help out, as Robert had been doing for several years. The only difference was that I would talk Mom out of more than I would contribute each week. I never will understand how Mom made it on the small amount of money available, but she did a wonderful job and we will forever be grateful for that.

During this time period, my Mom married Fred W. Lee. He was a boarder of one of our neighbors and worked in the weave room of Dan River Mills. He was a wonderful person and while trying to court Mom, he would always bring Edith and me candy.

We thought it was quite funny at the time that he talked so loudly. He was accustomed to it due to the loud noise in the weave room. If a person has not been in a weave room, they cannot imagine the noise decibels in there. We always called Fred Lee, Mr. Lee since he was a kind and generous man that commanded the respect of everyone that met him. He was from an area near Winston Salem, N. C., and never learned to drive a vehicle. He was, however, responsible for our family having its first automobile, which was a 1933 Dodge. It was a beauty; dark blue with spare tires in each front fender. It was a real classic. I did not know that Mr. Lee had decided to take driving lessons until one day I was on the way to Dan River to clean the spindles on Mom’s carding machines and saw our beautiful car being towed in by a wrecker truck. I told Mom and she called to learn that Mr. Lee had arranged with a friend of ours, Bill Plaster, to give him driving lessons. Mr. Lee drove it 50 feet and rolled it over in a ditch. That was his first and only attempt to drive. Mr. Lee passed away in the early 50s and was sorely missed by everyone who knew him.

Pictured is a replica of the first automobile our family owned, a 1933 Dodge.


After the Dodge was wrecked, it was time for another car, and this time Mom chose a 1937 green Studebaker four-door sedan. It, too, was a beauty. Mom cared so much for this car that she had Dan River build us a garage. For this, they charged 50 cents per week which made our total rent $1.50 per week.

After we had driven the Studebaker for a couple of years, I decided it needed a fresh paint job to re-new the ‘sparkle’ we had become accustomed to. After pleading with Mom and getting her permission, I bought what was advertised as the very best paint that would never show a brush mark. This was a “new” product that was supposed to be exclusive to L. Herman’s Department Store. I began the painting one afternoon and darkness fell when I was about one half complete. After continuing the next day, I realized what a foolish mistake I had made. It showed up two tones of green and looked exactly like the Swicegood Funeral Home ambulances. Needless to say, it became the “laughing stock” of the neighborhood and taught me a great lesson.

Pictured is our second family car, a 1937 Studebaker.